My Research concerns Adult Disorganized Romantic Attachment


I spent more than a decade researching and analyzing the reasons why people engage in self-destructive behavior in their Romantic Relationships. The research and book contain my findings.






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​​Like me, many Marital therapists  regularly encounter couples who exhibit chronic patterns of hostile-controlling behavior.


These account for about 70% of the couples who fail to change in couple therapy

The couples can be high-conflict or low-conflict couples,

or a combination of the two.


These couples are in every social strata and culture. Both individuals can be very successful in business and in other relationships. 

The
common denominator is disproportionate hostile reactivity to their partners.


They need to be in control no matter the consequences.


These individuals often feel that their life and sense of self depends on controlling most aspects of their partners' lives. It is currently understood that the neurological wiring and cognitive and emotional biases involved in close relationships are formed very early in life. 

They often feel that their life and sense of self depends on controlling the Relationship.


It is currently understood that the neurological wiring and cognitive and emotional biases involved in close relationships are formed very early in life.


I traced disorganized attachment patterns from Infancy to Adulthood.

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My book is an exploration & Analysis of the origins of Disorganized Romantic Attachment


It analyses the research on environmental, cognitive, emotional, intra- and interpersonal

variables associated with these behaviors across the life-span.


The research is both a clinical and theoretical of explanation of how controlling dance begins and is maintained,

along with detailed suggestions for treatment.

What I found were three predictable patterns of engagement that just happen to map to the patterns that 

John Gottman discovered in his research describing and called intractable couples.

Gottman and I took very different paths to arrive at the same conclusions.

His research was behavioral, mine is attachment focused . 

Sue Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight, is an attachment focused clinician like I am. Both of our approaches are Her designed to create and teach emotional Safety to couples so they can learn to stay calm and caring when they communicate.


My book is primarily written for researchers, scholars and clinicians. 
It is not a very good self-help book unless this topic is especially interesting to you : )


Publisher's Description

Dr. Rosemary Bannon Tyksinski is the first to trace three distinct disorganized attachment

trajectories from infancy, childhood, and adolescence to adulthood.

In this book she describes the long-term consequences of disorganized attachment as it affects adult

cognition, affect, and behavior, and the ultimate impact on romantic relationships.

She presents an Integrative Model of Adult Romantic Attachment that synthesizes empirical

findings from studies across the lifespan. She integrates these findings with both the

3- and 4-category models of adult attachment. 

Attachment theorists and couples therapists will benefit from Dr. Tyksinski's innovative, organized

approach to understanding and treating this difficult population.


*Those With a True Incapability Include: 
People on the Autistic Spectrum (ASD), specifically, 

Pragmatic Social Communication Disorder, formerly Aspergers' Syndrome  which was not addressed in this research.